Girlfriend Lessons from Working with Horses

Much of this article will not make sense or may seem disrespectful unless the reader is familiar with the terms and techniques of “Natural Horsemanship”.

 

Your girlfriend should look to you for leadership. Leading is much deeper than just having the woman follow you around. The leadership I am talking about is clarity, wisdom and certainty of direction. Show her that your love is a constant and unwavering and she will “hook on”.

 

Her yoni is not an issue. Her heart is the issue. When her heart is right her yoni will be right. When a woman orgasms she is releasing deep tension. (It is beyond lick and chew.)

 

You do not ever “fix” or “correct” your girlfriend. You will never gain ground by “bossing” her around. You just direct her and she will “correct” herself as needed in order to more fully embody her core essence.

 

Don’t play win/lose with her because she is stronger in many ways. She understands comfort and lack of comfort. She already knows how to “go”. But, to “go” she needs to be able to trust that you will not be moved off your center. She will not accept being fooled with.

 

Don’t try and sneak a ride on her. Feel your own commitment and depth and she will feel it too. Give her your direction, otherwise she’ll go looking for her own guidance. That being said, don’t just bulldoze through life. Don’t ambush her. You must have an awareness of her and a sensitivity of her while directing her.

 

To stop movement; don’t pull on her, rather change the rhythm in your hands. She should trot when you change rhythm in your hips. When your feel changes to “don’t go” she needs to know to find her stillness. When your woman is still she should be still feeling you, so that if something goes awry she will look to you for security.

 

When she takes a “jab” at you show her your stable presence. When she surrenders into trust don’t bother her anymore. Look for the smallest change and the slightest try. As long as she kind of moves into her heart space – be alright with it. Always reward the “try”.

 

Don’t make her do anything, get her ready to do it. Come to her with openness, freedom and love. The correct order is; first her mind, then her lips, then the mind and the lips.

 

Your job is to get your woman ready to do what she has to do (surrender) and she will do the doing. You want your idea to become your woman’s idea. You know you did the right thing if today you can do less with her than you did the day before. Praise her, pet her, rub her neck. Do NOT pat her! (Petting yes, patting no.)

 

When she tries; leave her alone. Don’t be critical of your woman, be particular. Before asking favors, get her attention. You must be more interesting to her than whatever else is in her world while you are together.

 

Don’t jerk on her head; let her run into the end of the (metaphorical) “rope” on her own, but do make sure there is an end to the “rope”. What I mean by this is to make your boundaries real and consistent otherwise she’ll never trust you (and perhaps with good reason).

 

When she’s rearing up; try not to do too much, let her come back to earth. Let the woman work through her trouble. Sometimes she has to work at the wrong thing for a while. Don’t start something unless you can come out the other side. Have a picture in your mind what you want her body to do. (I don’t advise using spurs.)

 

Your woman is the one that has the first trouble (got scared, bothered, etc.) then you get to feel it too. The more you help her; the better she’ll get. It’s your responsibility to help her. Don’t have two of you bothered at the same time.

 

When your woman gets frustrated she needs you in the worst way to be at peace. Before you ride her; get her to be and stay with you mentally. Keep your breath full and your body strong. Keep your attention present with her and no matter what she does; give her love. Your only options are fear or mastery (of yourself).

 

To build trust, have her work at something that she doesn’t think she can do (like be turned down for an invitation of time together or crossing an obstacle). Let her work through whatever behavior she comes up with. Give her patience with respect. Build trust with an easy obstacle like returning her calls at your convenience rather than allowing them to interrupt the flow of your workday. Don’t draw on her nose (like phoning her back) while she’s crossing the obstacle for you. If every time she gets bothered you ease off it teaches her that your edge will move according to her whim. She won’t get over being bothered without working through it. Expose her when she can find her way. Don’t make her afraid (that you are abandoning her). She can get afraid and that’s okay. Allow her to see she can handle it, which will build her confidence.

 

Remember that she will offer you truth. Align your life with your own truth and purpose; demonstrate your masculine clarity, direction, integrity and presence. Always remember that you are not here to please her. You are here to pervade the world (including her) with fearless consciousness. Act with impeccability at all times.

How Deep Can I Glow?

Most people are accepting of hands-on energetic touch such as Reiki as a valid healing modality. We often expect to feel energy exchange in our bodies during a regular massage or Rolfing session. It is pretty obvious that our energy doesn’t end at our skin.

If we accept and understand that energy is transmitted from our fingertips then it should be easy to see that energy is transmitted by touch with other parts of our bodies as well. This holds very true during lovemaking.

When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman’s heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man’s essence up to her heart and beyond. Allow your energy and awareness to grow big. Become conscious of more than your own physical sensations and include your partner’s body and emotional state in your awareness. Tune into her and sense what she is experiencing and what would delight her. Isn’t energetics what transforms sex into lovemaking anyway?

I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the “micro-cosmic orbit”. This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man’s erection.

Think about the Reiki example again. In Reiki we transmit healing energy out of our hands. Certainly our genitals can transmit energetics as well. My woman can always tell when I am consciously transmitting energy during lovemaking. Granted any energetic skill grows with practice, but it is as simple as visualizing your love reaching her heart. Just as you would visualize gold or white healing light extending from your fingers the same can be done with your penis. Allow your consciousness, your very being, to expand and merge completely with your lover. Dissolve your whole awareness into love itself.

Feel deeply of yourself and your personal power. Feel the truth of who and what you are. This is what you’re bringing forth with your presence and your breath. This is what you’ll enter your woman with. Spending time in a solo practice before meeting your lover is very helpful. Connect with the energy source deep within you. Prepare to touch your lover’s body while transmitting love and light. Maintain your own sense of power and alignment in your body as the experience unfolds.

Remember that your partner wants to feel your essence and love in her body. She wants to feel your consciousness expand and penetrate her completely (physically, emotionally and spiritually). The woman’s fulfillment comes from receiving the man in utter surrender. So keep asking yourself “How deep can I glow?”

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He stands as a resource for embracing a conscious intimate life.

Become an Expert in Loving Your Woman

Do you want the relationship of your dreams? Do you want you and your partner to be deeply happy with each other? Do you want your life to be guided and moved by love? A good way to start is to become an expert in loving your woman.

Not an expert on any woman or all women, but this woman that you call yours. One very useful step is to commit to a ten-day experiment in loving your woman. (You can do this without telling her.) You will certainly find out more about your own relationship weaknesses and what truly inspires you about being with her.

When you’re not “getting” what you want from your woman, try giving her what she wants from you. First you must know what she wants. If she hasn’t told you lately or if your memory is fuzzy just ask her. Also think of the times that she was really happy with you and recall the way you were treating her then. By paying closer attention to her in this ten-day exercise you will also gain greater understanding and appreciation of your woman.

Some general principles to follow as part of the exercise are as follows:

Presence; find your center and give her your attention.

Connection; make sure she feels love flowing between you both.

Slow down; go slow enough to really see her. Marvel at the miracle in front of you. Pay attention to what moves her.

Kindness; be soft with your energy and be thoughtful toward her.

Touch her; affection gives her a direct transmission that you are here and you want her.

Assume the best intentions; stay positive with words and gestures.

Acknowledge her; compliment her, smile when you look at her.

Giving; determine what will make her life more wonderful in this moment and give that to her.

Remind yourself whenever she is off-center or just out-of-sorts or that all is not right in her world then it is partly your job to make it right. Remind yourself that you are NOT the most important person in the room – SHE IS!

When you feel like speaking the truth about something that bugs you about her. Remind yourself that telling the truth is not so much about telling someone your judgments about them but it is really about being honest with yourself. Answer for yourself – What are your true motivations for the life you’re in? What do you really believe about yourself and why do you act the way you do?

I’m sure that you will modify this program to fit for you. Give it ten days and let me know how it works for you. No one is telling you to stop treating her like this once the ten days are up either!

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He stands as a resource for embracing a conscious intimate life.

My Woman’s Feelings When I Notice Another Woman

After my recent article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised:  How do you handle your current woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman?

The best advice I can offer is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when it is your time to be together. Be transparent with how you feel and what’s “up” with you. Let her know how important she is to you. Find out her “love language” (see book by Gary Chapman) and give affection in her preferred way.

More than anything else that you can give, your woman wants your presence most of all. When my head is turned momentarily my woman is secure in knowing that I am deeply in love with her and my appreciation of another’s beauty will not affect my want and desire for her. She is secure in knowing that she is the true object of my affection.

She knows the internal process that happens with me at those moments because I have shared that with her. (See my previous article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head.) She feels the renewal and the life that I bring to her because I am alive and optimistic and that she is my chosen one. She has seen my integrity proven time and again. She knows that she is my clear choice as a woman.

We also re-orient to our love often. (E.g. through words, affectionate touch, small gifts and by connecting in a brief, but meaningful way at transitions.) We try to start every day with some form of connecting in love. We are honest with the truth in our bodies. What I mean is that when I’m aroused my lover knows and when I am feeling conservative with my energy I’ll communicate that to her, too. This supports our ability to be true partners with each other.

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He stands as a resource for embracing a conscious intimate life.

When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head

When a man notices a beautiful woman he has a choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment or critique of her looks or how she puts her energy out. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his chances with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his lustful thoughts.

A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let it pass. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman can sense the man’s attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable “taking” or something sweet depending on the quality of the man’s intent.

I suggest feeling into your body when a beautiful woman turns your head and transmuting that feeling into an appreciation for her as a creation of God. Breathe with the feelings in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.

The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women. This isn’t something you think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps you may generate a feeling of love for all beings.

Do not let yourself imagine taking away from her in any way. But, rather take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation that such beings inhabit our world. You may even develop a little message to think to yourself such as “I would protect and serve her were she ever in danger” or “God has truly blessed this world”, for example.

And then, importantly, let her go. Do not recall her to your thoughts later. Let the moment pass so you can be present for the moment you have now. What you can keep is a sense of being enlivened and a rejuvenation of your spirit (that is not connected to another person). What has then taken place is that your own life force has been awakened a little more.

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He stands as a resource for embracing a conscious intimate life.

How to Create Safety for Women, Part 1

Why Create Safety?
The two most important things that allow a woman to trust and open to a man are love and a sense of safety.  Only with these two elements in place, can a woman surrender herself in any relationship, whether it be a one-night stand, a long-term, committed relationship or a life-long marriage.  A woman’s beauty blooms with a safe and loving man.  Her essence opens as a flower opens it’s petals to the sun, revealing the radiant being that she is.

For many women, however, it is only safety that allows them to open to love, especially if they’ve ever suffered any abuse, rejection or wounding by a man. So safety is the pre-requisite for real intimacy in any sexual relationship. Though a woman may give her body to a man, she can’t give her heart fully if she feels unsafe. In other words, it’s possible to force the petals of a flower open before it’s time, but the fragrance and beauty of the bloom will be muted and restrained.

How Safe Women Benefit Men:

Only a woman who feels safe, will allow a man to get deeply close to her.  For a man, it’s a wonderful and fulfilling experience to be met by such a woman, one who is ready to welcome and celebrate his masculine traits. To be fully seen and appreciated for his gifts helps him feel complete, and his woman’s expressions of gratitude and esteem help him open his own emotional awareness and expression.

As he feels secure enough to share his inner world with her, both persons experience the freedom to fully savor the other’s unique qualities.  In this whole-hearted giving and receiving of each other, a sacred container is created for unlimited intimacy and joy. Such a deeply bonded relationship offers a man a strong foundation from which to live his true vision and apply his energy to his life’s work.

Creating  Safety in Women:  Step-by-Step Instructions
1) Know yourself: be confident, grounded and clear about your motivations.

2) Find out who she is: be interested in knowing her as a person; ask her questions about herself. Discover what’s alive in her. Listen to what you hear and respond intelligently.

3) Be present:  keep your attention and energy present; look directly at her while she talks. Really look at her; keep your eyes on her, keep your attention with her. Slow down and just be with her. Telling stories and talking too much about yourself or about past events may only be serving your ego, creating disconnection from her present-time emotions. She wants to be able to feel a connection between you and herself. Present-time topics that are associated with current feelings are best.

Authored by Kamala Allen, Ph.D. and Corey Folsom, CTE. Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He is a resource for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing intimacy.

How to Create Safety for Women, Part 2

How to Create Safety for Women, Part 2

4) Share yourself with her: be transparent, revealing yourself as a man and as a vulnerable human being. Talk about what’s alive in you.

5)  Stay clear and current about your intentions: keep her informed about how close you want to be and about your feelings for her.  Giving her a choice about whether she wants to proceed with you, will keep her feeling safe in the relationship e.g. “Right now, I feel like exploring our relationship further; I’m not sure what I feel for you yet, but I want to test the waters of our relationship; I find you very sexy and I’m physically attracted, but don’t think I want a relationship at this time.”

6) Show her you care:  call her the very next day after every date (note: texting her is in addition to a call) to share your enjoyment of her in any way that’s genuine; don’t hold back your praise if it’s real for you e.g.  “I loved the way you laughed; I really enjoyed your ideas about…; Your face looked very beautiful and glowing last night; Our lovemaking was exquisite.”

7) Praise her: Praise is a form of food for a woman; the more specific you are with praise the better e.g. “I enjoy the way your eyes light up when you talk about…” is better than “You’re pretty.” She wants to feel that you really pay attention to details in general, and to her in particular.

8) Give her tokens of your esteem: find out what form of giving makes her feel appreciated or loved, and make that your primary “love language” e.g. verbal praise, spending time with her, acts of service, gift-giving, touch etc.  Give her gifts proportionate to your means: cards sent with sincere sentiments, wildflowers or diamonds—give her evidence that she is esteemed by you, and that you think about her when she’s not present.

9) Fulfill her desires: check in with her about her comfort and needs by giving her a menu of options rather than open-ended choices e.g. “Would you like Chinese, Mexican or Thai food tonight?” rather than “What kind of food do you want tonight?” Attune yourself to the movement of her emotions and body while providing her stability and consistency. You’re the man, and she wants direction from you, not through arrogant control, but through confidence in your desires and communication.

10) Support her goals:  dream with her about her individual and joint goals without having to necessarily produce them for her. Help her try them on for size in fantasy, and then allow her to choose which ones she wants to pursue. When assisting her in realizing her goals; honor her requests, but also giver her what you feel she needs to support her long-term physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. For example, if she wants to fly to Bali and you know she needs to finish her school year, you probably couldn’t genuinely support her travel goal for now.

Authored by Kamala Allen, Ph.D. and Corey Folsom, CTE. Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He is a resource for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing intimacy.

How to Create Safety for Women, Part 3

11) Honor your own needs and boundaries: for instance, she may want you to join her in an activity in the moment.  However, if you say “yes” at the expense of what needs attending to in your world of projects and providing, she’ll feel that your boundaries (and you) are weak.  A real “no” from you, when appropriate, enables her to trust a real “yes” from you when it’s genuine. This can take the form of loving negotiation e.g. “I would enjoy that. I’m happy you asked me and I’m focused on (something else) right now. Can we find a time that will work better for both of us?” If you don’t have a 100% “yes,” let her know what’s occurring in your inner landscape by giving her your verbal consideration of her offer.

12) Offer your body as protection:  protect her from external elements. For example, offer her warmth when she’s cold, a steady arm when she’s unbalanced, shielding when she’s exposed to danger. When a woman feels protected, she feels safe.

13) Lead her gently into new territory: one of the ways men enhance a woman’s life is through the adventures and challenges they seek. Take her on adventures of all kinds with you, but do so gently and considerately, keeping her well-being in mind.  For example, a new physical or emotional direction in your life together may need communication, forethought and care.

14) Care for her emotional well-being: when she is stressed, offer to take some of her burden or help her relax. This can take many forms, for example, drawing a bath for her, allowing her some time to talk with you, or physically helping her with some of her tasks. Remember to offer her your grounded presence. While practicing empathy and deep listening, remain centered, rather than lose yourself in her emotions.

15)  Allow her sexual autonomy and power: follow the wave of her desire and let it be the guiding force in your lovemaking.  As her passion builds with the love she feels for you, she’ll open to you sexually, igniting your energetic attraction for her. Stay attentive to her body cues and energy. Responding, but slowing down your movements, will allow her time to feel and absorb her own passion. As her energy ebbs, flows and builds, meeting her pace and power will build the magnetic resonance between you.

Authored by Kamala Allen, Ph.D. and Corey Folsom, CTE. Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He is a resource for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing intimacy.

Meeting My Woman: Pre-flight Checklist

Before coming together with my woman, I make time for some quiet moments to feel my power and center myself. I want to connect with the feeling, for myself and for her, that I occupy the masculine role in our relationship.

In addition, there are qualities and ways of being that I want to put in place for myself and my beloved. I want to consciously connect with all of these in preparation for loving each other. To this end I’ve written a “Pre-flight Checklist”.

1) Grounded body

• Be well-rested!

• Come to her connected with and centered in my physicality.

• Keep my belly soft.

• Find truth in my body (not my head).

• Soft lips for kisses (& no halfway kissing her).

2) My self-love, sourcing from within.

• Let my energy body rest in my source.

• Remember – my self-image does not depend on her.

• When I feel “triggered”, ground myself, feel into the truth of my being.

3) Clarity, stillness

• Pause to gather my energy and priorities. What are my actions from this place?

• Toward this end, mastery with my solo (white tantra) practice is paramount.

• When in meditation; I feel into my power as a charged feeling in my whole body.

• Stability in myself (powerful, connected) translates as stability in my world.

4) My masculinity

• Know what I am bringing. Have a plan.

• Feel my balls. This means “own the room” and make my actions congruent with my arousal.

• Check the careful, nice guy at the door. Take risks! Screw the “nice guise”! Be willing to fail (in her eyes)! For instance, when she is “bossy” I may physically top her in the moment (pick her up, carry her to the bed or couch, pin her against wall or floor, play with growling, pretend-fighting, “I’m the boss”.) Not as a put-down, but a light adventure, smile and breathe her into openness and love.

• Feel my impact upon her. Be sensitive to this because it’s about her happiness.

5) My voice

• Speak my truth

• Check in with myself – be transparent to her with what’s happening for me. Go deep at transitions (e.g. arriving / leaving) by speaking to what’s important and true for me in those moments. For example, invite her to breathe with me. Make certain this occurs if it is important and helpful to both of us.

7) A light heart

• Throughout it all, find my humor and perspective – help her laugh.

• Be playful, especially in the face of her closure or contraction.

• Keep a sense of our union as sacrament.

8) My appreciation for her

• Compliment her looks and dress. Praise and touch is food for her. My appreciation of her is constant.

• Show her that I am protecting and honoring her.

• Re-orient to our love. (Speak to how I love and care for her and what it means to me to be together.)

• Cup her yoni and let her feel the steadfastness of my love as needed.

• Occasionally bring her a fun surprise or gift.

9) Willingness and Generosity

• Check in with her – ask her for an emotional weather report from time to time.

• She’s the most important person in the room and as such I put her needs first.

• Give her my love directly when she’s upset! It’s not about pleasing her, rather about opening her with my love.

10) Helper Angels on alert

• Trusting that guidance is at hand within the sacred space we create.

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He is a resource for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing intimacy.

Conscious Relationship Ending

My intimate partner and I recently shifted out of deep belovedship and into being non-sexual friends and allies. I value truth and depth and openness very highly and knowing this, my woman came to me with her difficult truth. She told me about her personal journey calling to her in way that did not resonate with being pair-bonded with me any longer.

Wow! It’s time to actively choose openness over closure… if possible! Toward the end of our two-hour discussion, she asked me what I wanted. I felt that all I needed to say had now been heard by her, and I was complete in our conversation. I told her that I wanted to have sex. She asked why. I told her that my heart was wide open to her, that I felt super-charged with energy out to my skin. She suggested next week and I said that I would likely not feel this way next week.

We set about creating a closure tantric lovemaking ritual. But, then my strong feelings of earlier evaporated. I just felt numb. And so we did what we know to do, which is to lie together and breathe in tantric alchemy. We simply placed our bodies together in a way that aligns our energy centers and breathed in sync. In this tantric union we find that our energies attune to each other (much like a tuning fork).

The two-hour sacred sexuality ritual, which evolved organically, was deep, tender, wild, and bittersweet. We gave of ourselves completely and with abandon. At the conclusion we felt whole, full, and in love. And the truth remained that our paths were diverging.

We transitioned out of our sexual relationship quickly, and of course, there were more feelings and issues that arose as time went on. We processed most of this with other people. (Attempting to make your partner your therapist is a bad policy. It is also kindest to process issues dealing with another’s personal stuff with out-of-area friends).

After two weeks apart for reflection and space, we came together for an evening designated primarily as my time to speak everything that I wanted to say to her. For me, this was contained within the following:

1 – My appreciations to her

2 – What I want in my life

3 – What I’m willing to do to create my new life

4 – My apologies to her for my shortcomings

5 – Asking how I helped her

6 – What are you grieving?

7 – How we may interact going forward

The next time we came together was primarily her opportunity to give voice to what she wished to say to me.

By maintaining our shared values of integrity and clarity, and in recognizing that our relationship has been characterized by mutual kindness and generosity, we allowed ourselves to transition beyond our previous dynamic while still emotionally supporting each other.

Longevity is not the best metric to judge the success of any relationship. My time with this beloved was a beautiful love chapter in my life. We served each other well by recognizing that our intimacy togetherness had reached it’s zenith, and like an artist on the trapeze, we have let go, to open our hands for what life will now bring before us.

The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He offers private sessions in person and by phone/Skype. He lives in San Diego and is often in Los Angeles/OC, Phoenix and the Bay Area. He is a resource for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing intimacy.