Posted by: Corey Folsom | September 22, 2011

When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head

How a man uses his energy when a beautiful woman gets his attention? Deny lust? Feel differently?

When a man notices a beautiful woman he has an immediate choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment of her looks or how she puts her energy out to the world. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his “chances” with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his thoughts.

A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let her go. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman will sense the man’s attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable “taking” or something nicer depending on the quality of the man’s intent.

I suggest feeling into your body when a beautiful woman turns your head and transmute that feeling into a non-personal appreciation for her being as a creation of God. Breathe with the feeling in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.

The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women in general. This isn’t something to think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps this may generate a feeling of love for all beings in you.

Do not let yourself imagine taking from her in any way. Rather, take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation for the beauty of our world. You may develop a little message to think to yourself such as “I would protect and serve her were she ever in danger” or “God has blessed this world”.

And then let her go. Really let her go! Do not recall her to your thoughts later. Let the moment pass so you can be present for the moment you have now. What you can keep is a sense of being enlivened and a rejuvenation of your spirit (that’s not connected to another person). Just let your own life force be awakened a little more.


  1. Dear Corey, the world is a better place because of men who can think like this.
    Thanks for sharing the message.


  2. Thanks Lindy! This is actually a first draft that I wrote in an inspired moment today. I’ll dress it up and re-publish later perhaps.


  3. I don’t even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was great. I do not know who you are but definitely you are going to a famous blogger if you are not already 😉 Cheers!


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