Most people are accepting of hands-on energetic touch such as Reiki as a valid healing modality. We often expect to feel energy exchange in our bodies during a regular massage or Rolfing session. It is obvious that our energy doesn’t end at our skin.
If we accept and understand that energy is transmitted from our fingertips then it should be easy to see that energy is transmitted by touch with other parts of our bodies as well. This holds very true during lovemaking.
When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman’s heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man’s essence up to her heart and beyond. Allow your energy and awareness to grow big. Become conscious of more than your own physical sensations and include your partner’s body and emotional state in your awareness. Tune into your partner and sense what he/she is experiencing and what would delight them. Isn’t energetics what transforms sex into lovemaking anyway?
I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the “micro-cosmic orbit”. This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man’s erection and even while clothed.
Think about the Reiki example again. In Reiki we transmit healing energy out of our hands. Certainly our genitals can transmit energetics as well. Any energetic skill grows with practice, but it is as simple as visualizing your love reaching her heart. Just as you would visualize gold or white healing light extending from your fingers, the same can be done with your penis or breasts. Allow your consciousness, your very being, to expand and merge completely with your lover.
Feel deeply of yourself and your personal power. Feel the truth of who and what you are. This is what you’re bringing forth with your presence and your breath. This is what you’ll enter your partner with. Spending time in a solo practice before meeting your lover is very helpful. Connect with the energy source deep within you. Prepare to touch your lover’s body while transmitting love and light. Maintain your own sense of power and alignment in your body as the experience unfolds.
Remember that your partner wants to feel your essence and love in his/her body. They want to feel your consciousness expand and be penetrated completely (physically, emotionally and spiritually). The woman’s fulfillment comes from receiving the man in utter surrender. So keep asking yourself “How deep can I glow?”